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Positive Influences

A while back I mentioned a book that I recently finished, The Compound Effect by Darren Hardy.  This would likely be filed in the "self-help" section of your local bookstore, and this is not a section that I frequent.  I am so glad that I stepped outside of my typical genres to read this book, however!  It gave me a LOT to think about and I've been mulling over a lot of the ideas ever since.

One of these has been the "circle of five".  This is the idea that the 5 people we spend the most time are the people we end up becoming similar to.  If they are die-hard basketball fans, we're more likely to open up news articles about basketball, pause on a basketball game while flipping channels, and just pay attention to basketball in general.  If they love to party, we may more often find ourselves with a drink in hand at a bar on a Friday night instead of other options we may have open to us.  We may have never done these things before, but through their influence we have started - and it's likely not a conscious decision, just a reaction to their presence.


This could either help or hurt us in countless ways - are the people we interact with positive or negative?  Savers or spenders?  Lovers or fighters?  Lazy or active?  Driven or apathetic?   Healthy or unhealthy?  Thinking about this has made me think more about the influence people have on me.  I think by being aware of the traits in others we'd like to see in ourselves, and those we'd like to avoid, it may be possible to use this to our advantage. 
What I really took from this, though, is a recognition that other people can say the same thing about me and my influence on them.  How am I living my life, and am I being the type of person I'd like to see reflected in those around me?  

The last couple months of working out and changing my lifestyle habits have really proven to me that being healthy is much more than a physical change and because of this it requires much more than an activity change to really be successful.  Because even if I worked out for 5 hours a day and restricted myself to an absolutely "perfect" diet until I got to my ideal body weight and shape, none of it would be sustainable without a mental, emotional and lifestyle change.

Luckily, I've been a part of a Challenge Group with other women who are also working through these things.  I feel grateful to be sharing the experience with them and I am as excited for all the changes they're making as I am for my own!  Although I've never met them before, I count them as a group as one of the five people I spend the most time with because we of the dedication we each have to the group and to each other!  It's much more than just a couple posts on facebook- it's really changing all of us!

So, I'm trying.  I'm trying to be positive, and I'm trying to be determined.  I'm trying to not be lazy, and I'm trying to love with everything I have.  I'm trying to be intentional in my health and I'm trying to share this with other people.  I'm trying to be the best me that I can possibly be - and although I may not succeed everyday, I'm trying.

How about you?  What do you think of this idea?

I'm starting up a new Challenge Group on May 6th - I'll be 100% committed to you and the changes you'd like to make if you can commit to yourself as well!  I'm here to help if you're ready!  Write to me for more information at

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